Are you listening?
There are moments in our lives we say we wish we could do over again. Some moments we even say we wish had never happened. While the sentiment behind such thoughts and statements may be true, the repercussions of a “do-over” or full erasure of an element of our past could be far-reaching. The direction and realities of our lives could be forever changed; important lessons we have learned could be lost and opportunities could be missed.
This would not be a weightless decision. If you were to ever find a Genie in the Lamp, be careful what you wish for.
1 + 1 + 1+ 1 + ∞ = U
Life is a series of events and experiences. Each builds on the one before it and each stamps its mark on the whole of who we are.
If you are like me, you have casually (and sometimes vehemently) said things like,
“I wish I had never met him/her/them.”
What if the person is the father/mother of your children? If you had never met, you would not have the very children you have. You might still have children, but they would be different children. Would you give up having your current children to have never met him/her/them?
“I wish I had never come here.”
Was it a choice? What led to the choice of being there and how could a different choice have been wiser/less hurtful/easier?
Is whatever happened there something you learned from? Was the lesson an important one and are you a better person for learning it?
“I wish I could do it all over again.”
Would your life be richer or better if you could? How so? Do you know what exactly you would do differently and know that it would produce a more desired result?
Or, do you just want a second chance?
The Sum of Self
Although I had a lousy childhood — and grew up to make many mistakes of my own, I don’t know that changing or erasing anything would position me any better than I am now. The odds could be, I could be worse off.
Would I trade a few bad memories in for a few good ones? Sure, but I would measure carefully the cost of doing so.
Who might you be had certain experiences, or people not touched your life? Where would you be? Is it a better place?
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